My personal motivation to you
First of all, is spilt even a word, or is it a slang term? (Lol)
Heard a great message from my pastor awhile back. He used this statement to make a point I wanted to share with you.
"Don't cry over spilt milk."
Well, what's that suppose to mean? Let's take it, first, literally, and then as an example to apply to our lives.
Literally, it means what it says. I mean, I don't think this needs to be explained, but I like the picture it puts in my head. I think of when I was a kid, trying to pour my first few bowls of cereal. I saw the target, aimed, and still seemed to go all around the bowl on the floor and table, making maybe a tenth of what I poured out into the bowl. I knew where I wanted the milk to go, but mistakenly spilled (or spilt? lol) it all around the target.
There was probably a few reasons I missed. First, I lacked the strength in my five year old arms to pour a full gallon of milk. Secondly, my mom use to always make my cereal for me. It was new and difficult for me to learn to do. Thirdly, as a child, my accuracy was not a strength yet. Even though it is something as small as pouring milk into a bowl of cereal, it was still something I had to learn.
As you can expect, I cried when I made the mistake. I was a child; what more can you expect of a child that doesn't achieve their goal? After making a spill, I wouldn't want to clean up the milk; heck, I wouldn't even want my cereal anymore! I felt defeated. I wanted to give up!
"Don't cry over spilt milk."
Whether it was my mom, dad, or maybe an older sibling, someone probably came along my side, told me to quit crying like a baby, and helped me clean up the accident. You see, I couldn't just cry and leave it there; what does that accomplish? I had to clean up the mistake and move on. I couldn't dwell on a small, mistake and allow it to ruin my whole morning. Instead, I could clean it up, pour my milk again, and enjoy my cereal.
Now, I know this all seems silly to think about, but this is how you sometimes live your life. You act like a five year old again. Instead of cleaning up your mistake and moving on, you decide to pout about how, "I can never accomplish anything in life." and say, "I hate my life." Really? You're going to let a mistake that's in the passed ruin the way you live in the future? That seems a little childish, does it not?
Maybe you blame your mistakes that haunt your life on depression, not being good enough, or on others. You want to know what I think you should blame it on? PRIDE! The only one deciding how you will live your life is yourself. You make a mistake.... That stinks, but don't be unwilling to clean it up and move on! I don't care how small or large this mistake is. Maybe you upset someone on accident or made a mistake at work. Maybe a mistake threw you off track for a life goal, or maybe you made a choice that is "unforgivable" to someone else. Whether it's great or small, you have to move on. Don't choose to live in a bitter, selfish, depressed lifestyle because you're no good. Get up, and move on.
Now, if you've read this far, thank you for persevering through my ranting. Let me get into the Biblical aspect of this. I can understand that some mistakes are harder to clean up and move on from than others. Some may seem impossible in your own strength to overcome. Thank God you don't have to and sometimes shouldn't keep trying.
You see, some mistakes are created through just pure accident. All this proves is that humans are not perfect; move on. You can get over that. Issues created by sin is different. For example, if you create an issue through your temptation in sin, should you try to overcome it in your own strength? NO! Why would you trust yourself to overcome sin when YOU are the one who fell in the first place? What sense does that make? Logically the only other person you can turn to as a believer is God.
“So you, by the help of your God, return, hold fast to love and justice, and wait continually for your God.” (Hosea 12:6ESV)
I've said it before, I'll say it again: MISTAKES HAPPEN!!! Whether it's out of an ignorant decision or pure accident, you can't change the fact that you spilt the milk. The question is, what are you gonna do about it? Are you gonna act like a child, cry about it in the corner, and leave the mess hoping someone else will clean it up so you can act like it never happened? Or will you go to God, the only one who has control over your messy lifestyle, and ask Him to help you?
"'Even now,' declares the Lord, 'return to me with all your heart, with fasting and weeping and mourning.' Rend your heart and not your garments. Return to the Lord your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love, and he relents from sending calamity." (Joel 2:12-13NIV)
Sometimes, it's pretty hard to face God without pride. No one wants to admit they need help, they can't do it, and that they made a mistake; but what's scarier: trying to fix things on your own, trusting yourself, the one who is bound to mess up again.... or facing a compassionate God and crying out, "God! Please have mercy on me. I can't do this on my own; I need your help to get through this."?
You may be a disappointment, a failure, and a defeated individual. You may be broken beyond what anyone can imagine. You may feel like there is no reason to live life anymore because this mistake is too much to bare. (weird, I say all this as if I have experience...)
These depressing thoughts will NOT put you back on your feet. These are thoughts of pride, pulling yourself down, treating yourself like you're garbage.
"Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God." (Psalm 42:11ESV)
Have you forgotten? If you're a believer, what you once were WAS garbage, but not anymore!!! You're created in the image of God; you have the Holy Spirit dwelling within you. You are a light for God. You were adopted as one of God's children FREELY in despite of your filthiness, and now you want to call yourself trash? Don't lie to yourself. You know who your heavenly Father is! Turn to Him! When was the last time you asked Him for anything!?!? This time of darkness seems like a very convenient time to get things right with Him.
Sometimes God allows what we call "bad things" to happen for us to turn to Him. He has a much better plan for you; He has a purpose of glory in everything. Let that encourage you to turn your back on these depressing thoughts and run to the one who loves you! As a Christian, death has no hold on you; the only one that will never let go is God. Cling back to Him; turn to Him and search for comfort and peace only He can provide.
"When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all." (Psalm 34:17-19ESV)
Remember the story I told in the beginning? Someone came to help the child clean up the mistake. They helped fix the issue. YOU are the child in the story, and that someone who came along side the child is God. Don't be a baby that pouts in the corner; instead, allow God to help you clean up the mess. Stop giving up and letting your emotions run your life. Stop pushing God away. Who else is going to help you?
"Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you." (1 Peter 5:7NKJV)
I wanna challenge you to read Psalm 34 if you are struggling with something bothering you from your past. It is a great passage of comfort, and can help you fix your eyes on the Lord. He is in control; He knows what you are going through and why. Trust and seek Him for peace.
Hi, I am Michael Jaymes. I am 19, and decided to start to writing in the winter of 2017. I feel a burden on my heart that I have much to say, so why not share it? I want to be heard and I want to touch the lives of others. What is a better way than through the internet? I have made my life motto, "I just want to be a blessing." It's time for me to live it out.